The message will be for each one of us as we look to the proverbs for wisdom to equip us in making mothers rejoice!
How to Make Mothers Rejoice
Mother’s Day – Selected Proverbs
Mosaic Rockford – Dave Spooner – May 13th, 2018
- Many of us may have mixed feelings when it comes to both Mother’s Day and/or Father’s Day. This could be because of difficult relationships with our Mom or Dad. It could also be because you have a difficult relationship with your kids or you don’t have kids, and Mother’s Day and Father’s Day remind you of these things which make it difficult for you. Some of us have a hard time because our parents are passed away and it brings that pain up again.
- Others of us love the days celebrating Moms and Dads because we have a great relationship within our family and we look forward to expressing our thoughts and feelings to these special people in our lives or we have fond thoughts and feelings of them if they have passed away. Many will have a combination of these feelings and thoughts. It is healthy and helpful for us to talk about these significant relationships to all of us.
- God has given us His thoughts and feelings in His word about the family and our relationship with our parents. Regardless of how we feel and how good are parents were or were not to us, we are instructed and commanded by scripture to “Honor our Father and Mother so that our days may be long in the land.”
- This morning we are turning to the book of Proverbs to be our guide in our relationship with our parents, and we are going to primarily focus on our relationships with our mothers. Proverbs was mainly written by King Solomon (the son of King David). Solomon was a man gifted by God with wisdom and had several things to say about our relationship with our Mothers along with advice to Mothers directly.
- It is helpful not only to read what God wrote through him, but also how he behaved and treated his own mother.
- Solomon’s mother was a victim of lust and power. She suffered because of what was done to her. At one point she had a good marriage to a Godly and honorable man. She and her husband had a place together at the center of the main city, near the palace of the king her husband served. The king saw her and wanted her. Because of his power he brought her to himself where she became pregnant with the king’s child. The king went on to have her husband killed in an attempt to cover it up and the child she bore to the king died. She had been victimized and bereaved of both husband and child. She endured many difficulties and hardships at the hand of others. Solomon’s mother was Bathsheba.
- King David took Bathsheba as his wife, and in the course of time Solomon was born to them. God, in sovereign redemption, placed it in King David’s heart to make Solomon the next king, redeeming a horrific situation creating beauty and honor from ashes and despair.
- Solomon became a great and powerful king, and all of Israel prospered under his rule. His mother Bathsheba had a request of him, and this is how Solomon treated her.
1 Kings 2:19 ESV
Bathsheba went to King Solomon to speak to him on behalf of Adonijah. And the king rose to meet her and bowed down to her. Then he sat on his throne and had a seat brought for the king’s mother, and she sat on his right.
- Instead of dismissing her, marginalizing her and distancing himself from her, he rose to meet her, bowed down to her, and gave her a place next to him. Solomon the King and Solomon the son, respected and honored his Mom by meeting her half way, lifted her up by serving her and elevated her to a place of honor and respect. His behavior toward her was impressive and serves as an example of what we are to do in relationship to our mothers as well, especially if they have suffered difficulty and hardship.
- Solomon, through the prompting of the Holy Spirit, instructed us by writing:
Prov 23:25 ESV
Let your father and mother be glad; let her who bore you rejoice.
- This is where the title for this message comes from, “let her who bore you rejoice.” In the time we have remaining, we are going to answer the question: How can we make our mothers rejoice? Using the advice Solomon gives us from his book, I have selected six things for us to do and one thing primarily directed toward mothers.
Do not forsake her teaching
Prov 1:8-9 ESV
Hear, my son, your father’s instruction, and forsake not your mother’s teaching, 9 for they are a graceful garland for your head and pendants for your neck.
Prov 6:20-22 ESV
My son, keep your father’s commandment, and forsake not your mother’s teaching. 21 Bind them on your heart always; tie them around your neck. 22 When you walk, they will lead you; when you lie down, they will watch over you; and when you awake, they will talk with you.
- The home is to be a place where both parents are engaged and involved in the lives of their children through instruction and teaching. Every home is a school where the children learn and are taught. So, teach well because subsequent generations are going to be built upon it.
- If we want to make our mothers rejoice, we are to not abandon or forsake what we have been taught by them. If we remember and follow what they taught us, these teachings and instruction will beautify our lives with grace and honor. We are to bind their teachings to our heart always, we are to “tie them around our necks” and in doing so, they will lead us, they will be with us, and they will watch over us. Their teachings will be our counselor and companion.
- Make a list of the instruction and teaching that has been passed down to you by your parents. Take all the good you have learned from them, memorize it, use it and keep it close to your heart. And also, thank them for what they have given and done for you. Today is a great day to do this.
Do not be foolish
A wise son makes a glad father, but a foolish son is a sorrow to his mother.
- If you desire to make your Father glad and your mother rejoice, then don’t act like a fool and be foolish. Use wisdom with what you have – with your body, with your time, with your resources, at your workplace, at your school, in your relationships. Doing what your parents instructed and taught you to do will make your parents rejoice and be glad. Honor them by being wise, gain from their wisdom and experience, and if you do so, both you and your parents will be glad. If you want to continue to grow and gain wisdom, Solomon also gave us instruction as to how to become wise.
Prov 23:23 ESV
Buy truth, and do not sell it; buy wisdom, instruction, and understanding.
- We are to “buy” truth, wisdom, instruction and understanding. We are to buy it and not sell it. These are the good purchases, these are the things that will truly make you wise. When was the last time you bought these things? When is the last time you read a book, attended a conference, took a class, earned a degree, or bought someone lunch to learn from them? Do you have educational things in the place you live? Do you watch and listen to things to learn vs. to just be entertained? Do you value them? Do you save for and spend on them? Do you give your time to them? The best purchases of your life are the ones where you have gained truth, wisdom, instruction and understanding. If you spend your money and use your time on these things, you and I (and all the world!) will benefit.
Do not despise your mother
Prov 15:20 ESV
A wise son makes a glad father, but a foolish man despises his mother.
Prov 23:22 ESV
Listen to your father who gave you life, and do not despise your mother when she is old.
- A foolish person despises (disrespects, dishonors, disregards, and distains) his mother. This is a serious offence in God’s eyes. We are to draw near to her like we would with a highly esteemed guest. We should be attentive, thoughtful, and honoring, especially when they are old. She took care of you when you were at your most vulnerable; you are to do the same for her. I want you to seriously think about your attitude and actions with your mother. If they are honorable, then do more. If not, ask for forgiveness and radically change your ways. Make sure she is taken care of and give her honor, support and love. Do this as an expression of your faith in God, and God will reward you and bless her for it.
Do not chase away your mother
Prov 19:26 ESV
He who does violence to his father and chases away his mother is a son who brings shame and reproach.
- Don’t chase her away. Include and involve her in your life, bring her close to you. Don’t send her off to be apart of other people’s lives. If we are to make her rejoice, then make her a part of your life and the life of your family. If you don’t want her to rejoice, then you need to take a long look at your heart and ask God for healing and love.
Do not curse your mother
Prov 20:20 ESV
If one curses his father or his mother, his lamp will be put out in utter darkness.
Prov 30:7 ESV
There are those who curse their fathers and do not bless their mothers.
- How do we “curse” our mothers? We do so by calling them names, not listening to them, and treating them with contempt. We curse them by not giving them help and excluding them from our lives. We are to be a blessing by taking care of them, communicating with them, making time and a space for them in our lives, paying attention to their lives and praying for them. The role of parent has an important and sacred function, and God entrusts us and empowers us with taking care of His children. Treating our parents poorly is a serious offense to God and He will make our lives full of darkness if we do so.
Do not rob your mother
Prov 28:24 ESV
Whoever robs his father or his mother
and says, “That is no transgression,”
is a companion to a man who destroys.
- Children take advantage of the love of their parents by continually asking them for things. Tragically, I have seen plenty of people that only have a relationship with their parents when they need something. Now, it is one thing when you truly had a need, however it is another thing to take advantage of them by manipulating them to get things you want from them. Then there are those who just downright steal from their parents. Because they have access, they take from them. By doing so you are contributing to there destruction and dishonor them and God. God will bring justice to these violations.
- The last proverb this morning is given to parents, and especially mothers themselves.
Do not leave your children to themselves
Prov 29:15 ESV
The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother.
- Discipline and correction should be given to impart wisdom to our children. Don’t discipline because you are angry or embarrassed. Discipline to make them wise. You should not only discipline them but also tell them why and show them what they are to do instead and the reasons for it. (give them an illustration with toys around the house) When they become wise, they will discipline themselves and be mature functioning, mature adults.
- A child left to himself brings shame. There is a difference between leaving children by themselves vs. to themselves. By themselves is okay, to themselves in destructive. Our responsibility is to shape them into mature adults. To do this requires consistent attention. To give them consistent attention requires sacrifice on our part. This sacrifice for them will give a life time of blessings for both them and you.
- All of us need to take these things to heart. If you are doing well in these things, keep it up and be encouraged. If you are not doing well with these things, now you know what you are to do. So, think, pray and talk about what would be the best way to put these principles into practice and follow through with your plan.
- We all should be upholding marriage, parenting and the family as sacred. We are to do whatever we can to build marriages and families up. Have this heart and thought in you and do whatever you can to promote family health and unity.
Questions for the week ahead:
- What did the Lord say to you today?
- How are you going to put these things into practice?